đź“ť AITAH for feeling like he took advantage of me?

By Top-Bad-2119 • Score: 2 • April 6, 2025 8:58 PM


he was my first so it was pretty rough when he left me last year, the fact that he’s also one of my managers at work definitely didn’t help (not saying there’s a power dynamic but I just had to see him every week) anyway he started treating me how he used to so I confessed that I still have feelings. He says “I’ve missed you for months, I’m still not sure what I feel but I wanna try again, get back together, no one’s treated me the way you have” I couldn’t believe it, I said we should take things slow.. go to the movies. There were none in theatres so he proposed I “just come over” … I went. He said his parents would be happy to see me again.

In his bed, to clarify I said I wanted to have sex… but that I wanted to wait. I thought he’d be like sure no problem, he says “why??” I explain and somehow he’s still confused, we’re still talking about it and he’s saying he wants me to do it if I want to and I just feel like it’ll be awkward if I don’t do anything - even though I’d wanted to wait for sex. I gave him head but felt as if I’d stepped over my own boundaries. (My fault)

He said he was still sure about getting back together. But he said “I’d rather you didn’t tell anyone” after we had sex, I spent the morning with his family, he took me home early and when he parked the car he said it’s been fun but I don’t love you, maybe now you can move on.

People on here have called me pathetic for victimizing myself after things didn’t go how I wanted… I don’t want my ex to get in trouble at all… I just I feel kinda used and I don’t wanna see him at work anymore. AITAH for feeling this way… it’s my fault I know but I wouldn’t have went to his house if I’d known..

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