Hey guys I honestly don’t know if I’m overthinking this, but I need to vent and maybe get some advice.

So my boyfriend (23M) and I (21F) have been together for 3 years, and we live together. He’s a really good boyfriend super kind, caring, thoughtful… honestly one of those people who really listens and tries to understand how I’m feeling. I love him, and our relationship’s been great overall.

Recently though, he started this certification course for work, and there’s this girl in his clas let’s call her Ari. At first, it was just casual mentions, like “oh yeah, Ari and I worked on this thing” or “Ari made this funny joke today.” Totally harmless stuff.

But lately, he’s been bringing her up a lot more. Like, how “cool” she is, how much they have in common, and how they get along super well in class. It’s not even the things he’s saying it’s the way he talks about her. His voice kind of lights up, and he gets this energy when he mentions her. And yeah… it’s starting to make me feel a little weird.

He’s also been on his phone more in the evenings and weekends, and while he says it’s class stuff, I’ve definitely seen Ari’s name pop up a couple times. I haven’t gone through his phone or anything I trust him but it’s just one of those things where your gut is like hmm… what’s going on here?

To be clear he’s still a great boyfriend. He’s super compassionate and would never intentionally hurt me. He can just be a little clueless sometimes about what things might make me feel uncomfortable. I haven’t said anything yet because I don’t want to come off as jealous or dramatic, especially when nothing bad has actually happened.

But at the same time, I don’t want to brush off my feelings. So… am I wrong for feeling kinda weird about this? Should I talk to him or just see how it plays out?

Would love to hear what you guys think thanks for reading ❤️