📝 AITAH for feeling what I'm feeling and doubting my bf (29M)?

By AntReasonable9013 • Score: 2 • April 19, 2025 5:34 AM


Hi! I'm not really good at expressing myself, but I (28F) just really want to understand my bf's actions (29M) rather than overthinking things.

So, my bf and I have been living together for a year now, and most of the time it's always me who initiates sex. In short, I have a higher sex drive than him. I don't mind that because every time I ask for it, he always says yes, except if he's too tired or sleepy. I know that it's normal for men to masturbate, but I am an overthinker, and it bothers me every time I know that he did it rather than initiate sex with me sometimes. I know that he respects me and loves me so much that he doesn't want to bother me when I'm sleeping or busy, but still, it bothers me as an overthinking person. I appreciate that, but sometimes it makes me sad, and I don't know how to communicate that to him without being awkward, I guess. He's always been consistent throughout the years we've been together, and I'm always his priority. My needs and my wants, and I don't want to keep feeling what I'm feeling about that situation.

What should I do? Am I wrong for feeling this way, or is there something wrong? Is this normal for a couple? How do you handle this kind of situation?

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