i’m in medical school and i’m nearing the end of my semester before i start doing clinical hours for graduation. yesterday (the 16th) i had my first final exam as well as a lot of quizzes, assignments, and other school related things i have to complete before next week when everything is finalized. because of this i have been sleeping like shit and stressing over school. i have also been dealing with relationship issues as well so i’ve been overthinking about that and trying to figure things out with my partner. i explicitly remember thinking about my bestfriend’s birthday a few days prior and was thinking to myself things i wanted to do for her for her birthday.

except it completely slipped my mind the actual day of. i messaged her casually, texting about whatever and then she started to become dry and lagging on me. because of the exams i didn’t have time to think about why or find it abnormal at all really until today. i know she’s intentionally ignoring me because she’s active on her other social medias and messages.

it genuinely slipped my mind that it was her birthday due to all the stress and work from school. i told my other friends about it and they gave me hell for it. saying i don’t just forget someone’s birthday if i truly “care about them” and that i could’ve set reminders and questioning how i could’ve forgotten. and i don’t think they’re inherently wrong but it feels like i should’ve been more focused on her birthday rather than passing school. i DO feel guilty about forgetting a special day for her but i couldn’t really help it with everything else going on.

i wanna make it up to her but im unsure how since its no longer her special day.