First of all, English is not my first language so if anything is wrong, I apologize.

I (19 F) have been in a 1 year relationship with Samuel (18 M), we are both still in high school and in our last year. This Sunday we did a national exam that is very important and everyone in the 11th grade has to do in order to graduate. This exam is 8 hours long. For context both me and Samuel are introverts and we don’t have friends, which makes us feel a bit like outcasts. Both of us have tried to be more social but it’s hard. This Sunday there was going to be a party after the exam, the party was a celebration for everyone that presented the exam that afternoon. I knew about the party a month in advance and i felt excited, like it was my opportunity to party since I never get invited to anything, my boyfriend has an old soul which I love but I wish he could do more stuff like this, so I asked him to go with me and he said no. At first I was a little sad about it but as the day started to get closer, I start to get a feeling that I’m going to be the only one that isn’t at this party, everyone was talking about it and I really wanted to feel included. I explained this to my bf but his answer remained a polite no. Also I started to get involved in conversations about it with others and everyone was telling me that it was a once in a lifetime event and to just go with someone else. The problem is that I don’t have any friends and my country isn’t the safest place for a young woman to go partying alone, so unless my boyfriend charged his mind, I couldn’t go.

Fast forward to the day of the exam, on lunch break I asked him again, telling him about how I was really sad not to go and feeling left out and that I was disappointed that he wouldn’t go with me just because he doesn’t like parties and is tired.

I feel like I have to make him do anything with me, if I want Ice cream I have to plead for him to share with me, going to a store? Plead, going for a walk? Plead, doing something that sounds fun to me or something girly? Plead. Unless it’s something interesting for him, he doesn’t care. That night I was in my room crying because I saw everyone else in the party while I was home alone missing out because my boyfriend couldn’t go with me for at least an hour.

Is it valid to not do something that is important for your partner because you don’t like it? Or am I right to be mad and disappointed that he couldn’t do this for me?

P.S: I explained to him why I was mad and he just said “I don’t like parties “. He has never been to one.