i’m 16 so this may be childish and petty, but either way i don’t know where else to take it. i don’t really like advice from people around me because they don’t seem to understand why i’m bothered.

i’ve been friends with A for several months and it hasn’t been easy because i feel constantly blamed for things. our first fight was him blaming me for one of my friends crying when come to find out it wasn’t even my fault, and i disliked that because i was really guilty feeling. he’s made several statements to me and another friend about adderal in a way that seemed like a threat? if i can consider it that, maybe more of a guilt tripping strategy? we cleared things up and didn’t argue after that, just small things. he started to like me and i liked him but he started texting people i knew how much he missed me, including my cousin out of the blue. so i told him i didn’t want to be with him.

a couple weeks ago he disappeared to a place about an hour from here and basically cut me off contact wise, not responding and what not. he comes back and everything is good but then he starts pulling aside one of my friends each time they came to my house, and today he did that with the second friend and they left for quite a bit. we’ve had plenty of conversations seriously and he mentions constantly on how he ‘can’t talk to me about things’ and whines about it like it’s my fault but it doesn’t feel that way when he tells the two others in our friend group everything and basically excludes me?

he’s also misgendered his trans ex-boyfriend in front of me, a trans guy. it feels insensitive. he’s also sent me pictures of needles and tubes in his arm while knowing full well i get dizzy and uneasy when i see needles and/or blood. i’ve stopped bringing up problems all together in my friend group but i definitely got irritated today and told them to leave.

am i being a sensitive person or is it okay that i’m upset given everything piling together?