Posting on throwaway as I'm not sure if she will see this. A couple of days ago I (28M) and my wife(26F) went to a craft store. She found a good deal on large fluffy yarn. She has always said how she wants to make a big fluffy crochet blanket. So she got a few bundles.

I learned how to crochet from my grandma years ago. My wife has seen me crochet before and knows I know how to do it. She had suggested that I could teach her how to crochet after I am off work this weekend. She works a different shift then I do so our schedules line up sporadically. I was more than happy to teach her.

Today I got home from work and found the packaging in the trash. She worked a later shift today so I didn't bother her while she slept. When she woke up I saw that she had already started without me. She had been bored and decided she would try on her own. She said she messed it up after the first few rows and will need to start again. I was very upset and angry.

I keep crocheting because my grandma has since past away so I feel close to her every time I'm working on a project. This cut deep emotionally. I feel betrayed and not like I was valued in this. She tried to downplay that it was a big deal and that I was overreacting because "I messed it up so I'll have to start over again" and "You can show me how to do it when I start over again". I was really looking forward to spending time with her and showing her a skill I learned from family. I'm confused if I did overreact and it's not as big as I am making it out to be. Any advice is very much appreciated. Thank you for taking the time to read.

TL:DR My wife (26F) started crocheting from a video online after she asked me (28M) to show her how to do it as my grandma (who has passed) shower me how to.