I 31yr old female and my husband 34 yr old male have been together for ten years married 5, we have four kids one from my previous relationship. I want to lay a foundation by saying first I take the kids to school and pick them up after I also work a full time IT job and work from home, I do all dr appointments and school functions, and extra curricular. My husband also does IT at the same place I work. Doesn’t have to get up at 7am gets to sleep in an hour or so. Doesn’t do school pick ups or extra curricular or really anything involving the kids other than the occasional watch over while I take one kid to practice. Now here’s where I get mad, ever Wednesday we go skating with our oldest as a family occasionally bring our 6 yr old or 3 yr old. The baby usually stays with a babysitter for a couple hours. Our oldest takes lessons and then we family skate. Recently our oldest has been accepted on the skate team and now practices Monday for a hour Tuesday for a hour and Wednesday hour. It take twenty minute to get there and yes it’s important to the story. I tell my husband after practice today and he threw a bossy fit saying he gets no time to himself cause he has to watch the babies while I take her to practice these days. And decided he no longer wants to do family skate on Wednesday taking the joy out of even going. He said that he doesn’t get anytime to himself because I’ll be gone. I offered to take the babies with me it’s no big deal I don’t mind it and he refuses. Ultimately it ended in an argument and me saying fine you want time alone you got it. I took the babies up to bed put the older ones to bed and decided I will no longer wait for him to go to bed or check on him at night when he doesn’t come up for bed. I decided if he wants to stay up and play video games or work or whatever idc anymore I rather live as if I’m a single mom then deal with him. It’s not like he does anything else with the kids I literally do it all and sometimes run myself to exhaustion. I just feel like he has sucked the joy out of being supportive for our kids and their hobbies. I just wish sometimes he was cheating or something so I have a reason to just stop caring. I do a lot for the whole family and I hardly get time alone, he says all I do is sit on my phone. Yes I do for the whole two hours a week I get to myself. I also have health issue that limit me and I push through and still try to be as involved as possible. I’m starting to hate my job cause he sucks himself into it so bad I can hardly get a conversation during the day.