Okay for context,buckle up it’s a lot. I am a 26F and the “friend” (no longer) of mine I ghosted is 26M. So we started to become friends through TikTok and we collectively had a lot in common, besides the content he and I posted. He lives in another state and as well as me , but I would go and visit him, and I’ve only met him in person 3 times. Now here’s where our friendship started to get sour, we had a lot of troubles going on in our lives, but the 4th time I tried to go and see him he ghosted me to go hang out with his boyfriend after I had flown to his town with my family ( we would meet up everytime I was with family, our trips to the town were often), and it didn’t happen once it happened few more times. My uncle even wanted to meet him and bought him a ticket for a show, and he ditched and said he had covid and strep. He didn’t show any proof for anything he was caught with, then proceeds to say oh I feel so bad for not coming let me come and see you. Mind you my uncle was so sensitive about Covid at the time especially he was trying to protect my Aunt. I ghosted him after that because I just beyond felt disrespected. Yet now that I look back, and found he was mentally unstable. He had threatened to “kill someone” for me and he said it so seriously that it genuinely made me scared. Like for instance if I was heartbroken about a relationship I had he said he will dox him and kill him for me and he said it so serious.. Most the time in his town he wouldn’t do fun activities, we would just go to the “movies” not only he would talk the entire time, but he would obsess over the movie and either be sad or angry about something in the movie. He would go out and do the activities he wanted with his friends but never with me. I’m sorry if you claim to be my best friend, after only meeting you three times wouldn’t you want to show me around your hometown. Yet I would talk about an issue I had, yet he would listen and all, but at the end of the day I would solve my own issues. But whenever he would talk to me crying and shit about his issues I’d listen but then when I would offer solutions for him to help he would make passive aggressive remarks. At that point I found it useless to help him. I ghosted him one time, then when he was curious what happened, I told him about that if he wants help mentally that he needs to seek a therapist or read help books, all of that he claimed he did and he put on this act for me for about 3 months. Until I realized he’s the same person. Also I forgot to mention that he would always put others down, what I mean is that he would comment on their social status, class status and make racists comments and everytime I would ignore it because it was just strange, yet ask very personal invasive questions. Yet I never asked when it came to him because it wasn’t my business. He also would call me anytime I went out with a friend who he didn’t like and call and ask where am I or cry to me on the phone when I was out with them. Basically calling my attention to him. Where I drew the line was that I had problems with two of my friends, which was my fault for confiding in him, one of them went into a psychosis. One I had a rough patch and the guy was just instigating the issue until I found out what happened wasn’t true. He told me that I am an awful terrible person for going back to those friends whose situations weren’t their fault all because I explained to him how upset I was over the situation. Those two friends of mine we made up and he wasn’t happy about it. Even called me a puppet, and I never had desire to talk to him again. I had a lot going on as well but it wasn’t his battle to fight and I told him that and he acted like it was his issue. Then he acts like nothing happened and he talked to me and the second I didn’t reply he blocked me on all my socials until the Jan La fires happened which he knew where I lived there was no fires on my account. Asked where I was I didn’t reply because I was out of the country at the time, he then wished me a happy birthday I didn’t reply then he sends me a long LENGTHY paragraph on my birthday basically calling me a shitty person, and that he’s done so much for me and all I had to do was sit and listen to him vent about his mental health to me, and that the problem is me and not him but he knows why we’re not friends because it was a 100 percent because of his actions, and he was trying to still be my friend after he chewed me up and spit me out, gave secret animosity by giving back handed comments asked me to help him sign him to a talent agency and when I refused because that’s not possible, he said that I wasn’t a true person. When he didn’t understand how Hollywood works and But after today being my birthday he had me second guessing my sanity, I didn’t bother to respond because the whole response sounded narcissistic, deflecting, arrogant and very entitled. Let me know what you think and sorry for trauma dumping but I’ve felt sick from this all day and I already had a lot happen in my life ( AND HE KNOWS THAT and still is worried why I chose to protect my peace)