ftm here, I came out to my mom a few months ago now, I was basically explaining how l'd been feeling for years but told her not to tell anyone as I wasn't out to even my friends yet (I'm still not out to them). At first she was accepting and started calling me by my preferred name but soon after stopped literally like a week after.

She said she was reading up about it and doing research during that week and was gonna ask her psychologist friend (who I know and is a close family friend too) about a gender dysphoria clinic, but was gonna phrase it like she wasn't asking for me because I asked her to.

When i talked to her about it after she stopped calling me by my preferred name she said "can't you just be a girl and like boy things?" I said that wasn't how it works and that boys can like girly things too. But she persisted and ended the conversation with "I'll always support you"

Then I was talking to her about it two days ago asking about the clinic and HRT and what she thought about that and she straight up said "I don't see you as trans. I won't see you as trans" she also said after "it's just my opinion, i don't think you're trans"

Im not sure what this means by this or what to make of what she said. I decided to look at her WhatsApp messages to the psychologist friend and she completely lied to me that she hadn't told anyone. One of the texts stated "she still thinks she's trans and all this gender dysphoria stuff. 🤪🤪she also wants to go by -my preferred name- now. Can I come over?"

I put her phone down before I read anymore because I knew they were all gonna be like that. I have no idea who knows now and who doesn't. This isn't how I wanted to come out. I can't tell if she's supporting me or not.

AITAH?

Edit: I am aware that going into someone else’s phone is bad but I legitimately thought she’d lied to me and I was right.