So I, 20f and my boyfriend 20f have been together since we were 16. We’ve come a long way since we met, we got sober and cut all of our friends off. I’ve been going through a rough time the last few years, I caught a deadly disease last year and my lung collapsed. I can’t work anymore because I have permanent lung scarring and it’s hard to even stand. I want to start doing things that make me happy, because I seem to be living the same day over and over again with nothing to look forward to.

For context, a few months ago my friend texted me out of the blue and asked me if I wanted to come to a concert with her. I was so excited, I’ve never been to one before. It fell on my boyfriend’s birthday weekend (two days after) and I assumed there would be no issue because we would probably do something on his birthday. When I went to tell him about my plans, he got really angry and told me that he had planned to go away to like Bournemouth with me on that specific day. I thought this was weird because he never mentioned it once. So I agreed. It’s his birthday wish after all.

Fast forward to now. We are no longer going away to a cabin, but we’re going to his grandparents house. Which is fine. But yesterday I explained to him that I wanted to go on holiday to Italy for a few days in the summer. We have previously tried to save up for a longer holiday but didn’t have much luck because I’ve just moved in to a new flat and I’ve started to pay bills. He told me he didn’t want to go. The only reason he didn’t want to go is because he can’t “smoke weed” in Italy. He would rather go to Thailand, which he knows we can’t afford.

I told him that I feel like I’m wasting my life because of him not wanting to do anything and letting weed dictate his life. So I came home and I booked a concert with my younger brother without telling him. When I finally decided to tell him he told me how he now wanted to go on holiday and that I needed the money to help save up. I put my foot down and told him no. I’m going. I can go on holiday whenever, but my favourite band might not ever tour again. AITA?

(Note) I wouldn’t like any relationship advice if that’s okay, I just want to know if I’m in the wrong and if I should listen to him and just save up for the holiday?