TL,DR: I had a fight with my boyfriend after he had a snarky remark about me attending a protest over Hungary banning Pride, saying I'd meet a better partner there, the reason being my outfit. I became passive-aggressive and decided to sleep at my mom's.

Full story: Hungary recently passed the bill to make Pride Parade illegal. They intend to use facial recognition technology to identify and persecute people organizing/attending it. They already banned exposure of non-heteonormative relationships/gender identities to underage people in 2021. I believe this is a major violation of human rights; both freedom of speech and the right for gatherings.

My country organized a peaceful protest in front of Hungarian Embassy.

When I told my (conservative) boyfriend I planned on attending it, he disapproved. I told him a brief history of the queer community and how much violence, discrimination and misstreatment was and is still commited against us (I'm not straight) and how this was important to me. He agreed it wasn't right for anyone to get treated that way but insisted he will always oppose the LGBTQ+ movement because of the "vulgarity and pushing their agenda onto kids."

On the day of the protest, I was getting ready. As I was nearly done, he came to my bathroom and asked me if I was seriously going there looking like that.

For reference, I wore a black goth dress with shoulder straps that reached about 4 inches above my knees, I had black tights under and a knit jumper over. It doesn't show my cleavage, it just exposes my collarbones. I had dark brown smokey eye and black lipstick on and I wore black platform boots. I styled my hair into a bat nest.

I said "yeah?" and continued getting ready and he went back to the bedroom without saying anything.

When I went there to pack the essentials, he told me something I feel was uncalled for, to say the least: "Maybe you'll find a more suitable partner there."

I was taken aback from that statement.

I couldn't say anything at first, so I continued getting ready. Then I went in the room he was in and admittedly chose to be passive-aggressive and used the same remark against him: "Maybe you should go to Church to meet a more suitable partner there." He took a second or two before blurting out: "I probably would."

I congradulated him for managing to reduce my pursuits to looking for his replacement and told him I'm spending the night at my mom's, then left the house.

I arrived at the location of the protest only to realize it was already dispersed by the police. Dissappointed, I turned around and got even angrier at him for starting an argument over essentially nothing.

Instead of taking time to calm down, I decided to provoke him by texting him: "Turns out you'd find a more suitable partner here easier than me. There's just cops left. I'm on my way to my mom's already." This was tied to his occupation that requires working with the law enforcement.

He hasn't reached out in 12 hours now, and I'm not doing anything about it either.

Am I an asshole, was I being too passive-aggressive and going to my mom's overnight? Did I take it too far? Should I have handled the situation better? And lastly, was my outfit really that inappropriate?