I [F25] have always been super close with my mom. She’s the definition of unconditional love, and I’m so grateful to have her in my life. We talk about pretty much everything, including relationship drama. I never thought it was weird until I met my ex [M36]. He got really upset when he found out I’d told my mom that he was a drug addict and an alcoholic. He said I’d ruined his chances of making a good first impression, and that I’d betrayed his trust.

I had never considered confiding in my mom about my relationships as betraying my partner’s trust before. I’ve heard that it’s rude to gossip about your partner with friends—that relationship issues should be kept between those in the relationship—but to me, my mom is different. If she asks what I’m upset about, I want to tell her the truth because I trust that she’ll comfort me and give me good advice. With my ex, I was constantly stressed from his behavior and couldn’t stop myself from crying, so of course my mom asked what was wrong. After my ex got so upset, I tried to keep things from my mom, but it just felt wrong. I could tell she was getting really worried about me, and it felt like we were growing apart. I hated it.

In my current relationship, my partner [M30] has only asked me to keep a few things to myself that I wouldn’t have told my mom anyway. He doesn’t seem to mind when I tell him that I talked to my mom about our relationship problems, but I still wonder if he secretly feels differently since it’s weirded people out in the past. A lot of my friends have been baffled by my closeness with my parents, and said they could never confide in theirs like I do. AITAH for talking to my mom about so much of my life—especially my relationships—and asking her for advice?