Hello! This is my first ever reddit post, so bare with me. I debated for a long time whether to post this since it could cause more issues for me in the future but I just need more opinions on this whole situation and I thought it would be a perfect "story" to tell on here, since maybe my hatred is unjustified to some people, even though with all the events that have happened in the past couple of years leads me to believe it is completely justifiable.

For some context, I (18F) currently going through my last semester in High School live with my 2 parents, both being middle/older aged which is important to note, and my mom recently went through back surgery. My sister is 25 I believe and her BF being a bit older (a couple years or around the same age). Lets call my sisters BF Jack.

Jack and my sister met through an online website I believe, I'm not specifically sure if it was through a game, a dating website, or chatrooms, but they met online. This was during her first or second year in Uni ( I do apologize in advance for not remembering specific details but I'll try my hardest just so everyone can see a basic outline of when things took place). At first me and my parents were all happy for her, and I thought it was cool she had met someone new and there were no red flags since they would facetime so they both knew what they looked like and it was not some sort of a catfish situation, etc. The one flag of concern that was raised early on for me and maybe my parents too, was that he lived states away, I won't name specifically where but lets just say it was a long distance relationship which is fine of course but you can never be too careful. Fast forward I think maybe a year of them dating, and also I'm not sure if before hand they were already talking for a while before she told us so. She asks our parents if it was okay for him to come down here to stay for a bit, at this point I did not know Jack would be moving in but it turns out he was. Some background info on Jack, he is white/ half Latino, and he has family issues (not to air him out but this is important for the story). So moving on, he comes and moves in basically. I was totally fine with this and even excited for him to come over so we could meet him, since they are both big gamer nerds, I was really happy that I would have another person to play games with (never happened btw). Even my parents while they were of course being careful and protective as they should be, everything seemed nice and chill, but that did not last long...

When they moved in (keep in mind he was living at my parents house rent-free during this time) I'm pretty sure I was a freshman in HS so around 14. So after a couple of weeks things are still fine until, as I mentioned before big gamer nerds, he begins to play games in his room, and the way the rooms are set up, its a hall upstairs, my parents master bedroom to the right, and then on the other side there are 3 small bedrooms and a separated bathroom. Jack and my sister slept in different rooms at this time, so he had a room all to himself, and the bathroom as well he shared with my sister since at the time I still slept in my parents room in a separate bed (because of health issues) so they basically had the whole other half of the upstairs floor to themselves. So when he plays games he tends to be quite loud, not a couple little screams and that is it, he is LOUD, he would scream all day and talk very loudly with his friends or whoever, and the sound would just echo all throughout the house. As gamers are most of them tend to be pretty foul-mouthed and he was no exception.

So I start to get pretty annoyed of this, I mean I did not go one day without hearing his high-pitched, didn't hit puberty laugh and his screams. My parents also start to get pretty fed up with it, and countless times we tell him to be quieter or close the door to his room but I guess it all just flies over his head. Since he also was not paying rent, he practically acted like the house was his, (and this all still happens now, even though now he pays rent but its not much either that he does pay) I was at this point completely fed up and hated him really. He would also constantly lie to my parents, "I'm looking for a place" "I need to stay a couple more months" and constantly IMO manipulate them into feeling bad for him because of his family's situation, which of course it was a sad and horrible thing to go through but that does not excuse the fact that he was not respectful living here for free! It's like when bullies in school bully people because of things they have going on at home, that isn't my fault and I feel bad but that does not justify bullying someone. Anyways nobody liked him being there besides my sister. He also was always looking for jobs because he could barely hold one. During that time he also found the audacity in him to yell at my dad, which is an older-aged man btw so that should show a lot about some ones character, and I remember it being about him being too loud per usual or doing something, and I was standing in the doorway of my parents room watching it happen, and of course it angered me to the fullest watching an immature 20 something year old staying at a place rent-free yell at the owner and dad of his own girlfriend for no good reason. After that whole fiasco of almost two years, Jack and my sister moved out and my mom was super against her moving out since she is in UNI and was worried about it affecting her schoolwork, but my sister is an adult so the best my mom and dad could do was give her advice. I on the other hand could not care less I was free of his annoying ass and happy, I will admit I did do some things which I did apologize for and regret, to him such as throwing away his tea from the fridge, but also I was 14-15 years old so I was just an annoyed and petty teenager.

They then moved into a house with 6-5 other people I want to say, all paying their equal amounts of rent. From then on the only time they would come over to the house was for holidays, and this part is why I will never like him or ever forgive him since I still got no apology for this just a lame excuse from my sister not him and over IG of all places not even to my face. It was my dads birthday and that day I was in my room all day working on a drawing him which took me quite a while to do since I procrastinated it, but I was determined to finish. Other relatives came over and some of my dads friends. it was about evening time and I had just shown my dad the drawing in the garage where he was sat with his buddies, since it took me until that time to finish it and he was super happy about it, he loved it and even his friends complimented it, I gave him a hug and went back inside, I didn't feel like mingling with everyone else so I went to the living room by myself and sat down to watch TV. I had just gotten a free subscription to Amazon Prime and I wanted to use it up before it expired so I decided to watch ATLA since I wanted to finish the show in order anyways, next this is very important in the story, I was sat in the living room and everyone else was at the other side of the house in another living room basically by the front door, talking and it was loud but not overly loud or anything like that but you can hear them from the living room since my house is pretty echoey. I had the volume set at a fair level I of course did not want to be rude and blast the sound so I had it set to where I could hear but it wasn't overly loud and played into the rest of the house. Then comes along Jack and my sister, they stood by a closet door behind the couch and when I said this guy talks loud I don't just mean over games, its like he doesn't have a sense of his volume or something along those lines, but he is a very loud speaker and his laugh makes it ten times worse. So then begin talking about whatever and since they are practically right behind me, its pretty loud so I keep having to ever so add another bar of volume to the TV every minute, and before all this, after they moved out they came back and I got a half-assed apology not even an apology, from him saying that we should be better friends in the future and he gave me a hoodie from CoryxKenshin which was great since it was one of Cory's more exclusive drops of merch. Fast forward to my dads birthday I thought everything was great with us, so I politely and I mean in the most quiet, kind, way possibly, tell him and my sister if they could quiet down, and I had to say excuse me almost ten times because they could not hear me over their own volume, and my sister kind of looks at me confused so I repeat myself "Could you guys just quiet down a bit, I don't want to have to keep turning up the volume on the tv please." and so she begins to nod a bit and tells him, but before she could even finish Jack goes in the most dramatic way possible, "OH but were not the only ones here, were not the only ones talking so we shouldn't have to be more quiet, we aren't even the loudest ones here." blah, blah, blah. He is practically yelling this in my face which again I was a minor, and he a grown adult in his twenties yelling at a girl telling him to be a little more quiet. So I was pretty shocked, my sister awkwardly just laughed and they went back to talking and she tried to calm him down a bit but overall she did not care that I got yelled at. So I sat there turned back to the TV after that mess and I quietly kept watching the TV not being able to even here it and I eventually start to cry, which is funny to me now but I really was hurt by that, and I was a bit startled getting yelled at like that over asking a simple question and not even in a rude way. I quietly got up from the couch and went into the backyard by myself and cried on a patio chair, my cousin and nephew who were playing outside in the back, looked at me and were concerned obviously and they cheered me up a bit but I just told them it was nothing. I was bawling my eyes out and eventually I heard everyone inside singing 'Happy Birthday' to my dad which sent me over the edge, how could I have let some ugly immature adult ruin this day for me? That was all I thought as I sat outside. My mom eventually came looking for me and saw me in tears of course asking what was wrong, so I explained everything that had happened and she looked furious, she then asked me if I wanted cake and I nodded and she went back inside. After that she came back out and brought a slice of cake for me and told me that she talked to them and they left the party. I felt a bit calmer and I went back inside and later that day or the next day was when I received the lamest excuse possible for what happened from my sister, not the grown man that yelled at me and not even in person. I could tell she felt a bit sorry but it hurt even worse knowing my own sister did not even defend me when he was in the clear wrong for doing that. From then on I fully hated him and I still do.

Present day they moved back in a couple of weeks, almost a month ago already and it is practically the same situation it was those past couple of years ago, being older certainly does not mean being more mature. He still yells all day playing games after he comes home from work, he also yells the n-word even though he is paler than snow white so do with that what you will, but he's a gamer so what can you expect really, not saying everyone is like that but the majority are lets face it. So I wasn't too surprised by that new revelation but I'm more surprised my sister is with someone like that since she's always "against racism" or seems to be that way, but I guess not when it comes to spewing slurs that should not be being said by someone like himself in the first place. He continues to act like the house is his, he pays rent now though so that is one improvement but it isn't much either, and they moved back in because they could not afford the other place any more and to help my mom because of her recent back surgery but they have done about two things to help her, my and my dad are the ones running around like nurses for her meanwhile they are up in their room all day yelling and screaming even after we have told them AGAIN countless times to be quiet or close their door but still even today as I'm writing this cannot do. He seems scared of my parents now though, which is funny considered he yelled at my dad in his face but now he's scared? Probably because the only option they have left for a place to live is a hotel or the streets. Yet they don't seem very motivated to actually work harder to get a place of their own, to me they are just mooching off my parents and taking advantage of the fact that we don't have a lot of money right now because my dad is retired and my mom is out of work because of her surgery, and I agree with this 100%, because how are you not embarrassed or ashamed of being in your mid 20s, mooching off of someone else parents and trying to act nice even though you get all dramatic when someone even slightly tries to tell you something, and god forbid someone is wrong on something. I know for sure he is trying to butter up to my parents because now Jack is all "Good morning sir and lady", he says he'll pay for our bills knowing damn well he could not even pay for his own, he and my sister filled up the kitchen with their countless gadgets and is always offering for us to use, mind you my mom opened up their air fryer to use it and it was nasty as hell in there because fun fact they also cannot clean for their damn lives. A week ago Jack was going to get water for something in the kitchen but my dad was by the sink washing dishes and to avoid my dad at all costs he went into the bathroom downstairs and got water there, like is that not insane? so you could yell at him but not say excuse me to get water??? He also recently blasted music as if he is not loud enough as it is, when he was taking shower like it sounded as if there were a club upstairs, my mom even said to me she was going to blast the TV volume, because we were both in the kitchen downstairs when we heard it. So its safe to say no one likes him besides my sister, so I still don't get this friendly act he has going on, my parents are nice to him just out of being nice not because they like him and they don't want my sister leaving with him states away from where he came from even though it would be an even worse situation to go over there so I don't know who be stupid enough to even do that.

That is about it so far, I really do wish them to live a happy life, but away from me and the UNI I am thinking of going to is two hours away, but I do not want leave my parents or my dogs in their wrath so I am still deciding. I hope this was worded right, I rambled off a bit but I just wanted to make sure to include every detail so I don't sound crazy, please let me know your thoughts on this and if anyone thinks ITAH, I also don't want them to go homeless but it's just the fact they could be working hard and should of been to afford their own place even if its a cheap apartment but they aren't, my sister could easily get a job but that's a different story and this is already too long, anyways I hope this was at least entertaining to read.

AITAH?