My wife and I are arguably alcoholics. We've always been social drinkers, but since the lockdown in 2020, we started drinking almost every night and more on the weekends. About 6 months ago, I decided I wanted to change. I didn't stop completely, but now I've drank maybe once a month, and I'll have 1-4 drinks when I do, usually 2 is good for me. I feel like I've regained my ability to have a few drinks and enjoy my night without using it as a crutch to get through the day. It was my intention to quit completely if I couldn't get a grip on it.

My wife seems to be drinking more than ever, though I can't be sure if this is normal and I'm just paying more attention now that I'm not drinking with her. We were both habitual drinkers, but I think she has lost the ability to control her intake. She'll drink until she either runs out of alcohol or she falls asleep on the couch - usually a bottle of wine every night, sometimes more.

Yesterday, it was announced at work that my team is having an outing to go watch a local baseball game, and we all can invite a plus one. I'm nervous to invite my wife because I don't want her to get too drunk in front of my coworkers, but I know she struggles with restraint, particularly when the goal is to have a good time with other people may also be drinking.

I don't like that I'm considering excluding my wife from events because I'm concerned with her lack of control. I feel like a hypocrite because I know that I only recently started to regain my control over my consumption. I struggled with the thought of my own alcoholism, so I sought to change. I didn't want her to feel like she needed to struggle with me if she wasn't already, but it's beginning to bother and concern me.

AITAH for wanting to tell my wife that she needs to cut back or quit? I feel like a hypocrite, but I also feel like I might be justified.