I’ll try to keep this relatively short and I never post here because it’s very dense with new posts so be nice pls. Just needing to vent. I’m 23 years old for some more details

My dad is on end of life support (ecmo) and not in good shape at all right now. We are praying for a heart but it’s become one hiccup after another. He is only 54 years old. It’s been a living nightmare. My mom’s side of the family has been very nice and supportive, she has a ton of sisters and my cousins are great. They have been talking to my brother and me almost everyday, they bring food over for us, they understand how serious this situation is.

My dad’s side of the family has been a different story. In the entire 1 month he has been in the hospital not one person has reached out to my family. His siblings are visiting him at times in the hospital, but that’s it. They either berate my brother and me for things out of our control, this actually happened the first time I saw my dad during week 1 of hospitalization, OR they pretend we don’t exist. I have 8 cousins on that side who are actually related to my dad (not just my mom’s side cousins). None of his nieces and nephews have reached out. Yes, they have our numbers and we see/talk to them at family events many times a year. They overall have just shown no care during this situation. This is annoying but everyone shows stress differently and I’ve tried to ignore it/focus on the positives.

Now that there is some background here: AITAH for removing myself from my dad’s side sibling/cousin group chat because they are asking for visitation times for my grandmother? My grandmother is doing well health wise and is in a very nice assisted living home. She gets visitors naturally about 2-3 times a week and I see her about once a month. They started a group chat for her, but not my dad (their brother) who is dying at 54 years old. Not a single word about my dad in this text message request for dates. Oh and they also included my dad on this chain, he is completely sedated with tubes coming out all over his body holding on for his life. AITAH??