I 20F am currently confused to as to if I am wrong or if I am right to be angry at my mom (54) and brother(34). Yesterday I wanted to go to my bfs (21) house so I told my mother I will be going out with him. My mother has never met him yet but knows about him and I have gone out with him before which she knows about. However yesterday she told me I am not allowed to leave until she meets him and she wants his phone number. I am not ready for him to meet her as she can be a bit much sometimes. W had a fight and she phoned my brother and told him and then he started lecturing me. I ended up going anyways but lied . I told her we going to the mall but we were actually going to his house. I went and sent her my location . My phone wasn’t on me as It was in his room and we were watching a movie in the living room. My brother called me multiple times before calling my bf. I did not give my brother or my mother his number . My mother phoned someone she knows to get his number (I don’t know how but she refuses to tell me) I then proceeded to pick up the phone when my brother called and he started yelling at me and he called me fucking stupid(this was all on speaker phone and my bf heard it). I ended up blocking my brother because he kept calling. About night time my mom phones my bf and starts lecturing him. This poor man got so scared he took me home immediately and spoke to my mother. That was the first time they met. She was drunk and began to lecture both of us .I wanted to die of embarrassment. Thankfully my bf was pretty chill about it and told me it’s okay. The thing is I feel like my privacy has been violated . By getting his number I don’t even know how and phoning me multiple times I just feel so stuck. My mother has struggled with alcohol addiction and has left the house multiple times drunk and not answering the phone. She has never apologised for it. Now both my brother and her want to take my phone away and forbid me from leaving the house because of yesterday. I never go out often and usually sit in my room most of the so I don’t know what’s that gonna do. I woke up this morning to both of them still yelling at me. They called me selfish and malicious for lying . All my life my parents had never let me leave the house. Friends birthday party ? Nope can’t go sleepovers ? Nope. And now I’m 20 years old and I’m still not allowed to do anything . I just feel so trapped. My mom says I live in her house so she can tell me whatever she wants. I don’t know. Am I the asshole?