I(18f) am a closeted gay girl living in an extremely homophobic household. My mom is hardcore maga and freaks out any time I diverge from the norm in any way, my dad is conservative and an extremely stubborn person who never changes his opinions. They have stated either ambiguously or straight out on several occasions that if they had a gay kid, they would disown them. I, knowing this plan to take full advantage of their financial support and come out to them only when I am financially stable and self-sufficient.

My friend who I’m out to thinks this is dishonest and I shouldn’t be building my life off my parents money since they won’t actually support me, and they have no clue that I’m just leading them on and they’re not investing in a relationship with me or the future I want. I think if they decide to disown that’s their problem and they would’ve given me the money so therefore there’s no reason I shouldn’t get it now.

So aitah for using my parents for their money knowingly planning on cutting them off later and not living the life they want for me with that money at all?