So I'm new to this but I need to know if I'm the Ahole here. For context I am 34 married to my husband 39 we have 2 sons 11 and 15. So long story short my mom is controlling and manipulative. My whole life she has used me and my sister as her slaves while she drank, did drugs and cheated on my father. My sister is 5 years older than me and got out when she was 15. I on the other hand lived by her rules got a job babysitting at 12 because I was very mature for my age. I grew up taking care of my dad when he got really sick(cancer) I was 11. Any way fast forward many years we moved to VA and I found an amazing man we were friends for years then got married. My mom lives with us for awhile but I had to make her leave because she almost got us evicted because of her being a slob and letting her dogs destroy her room ewww poo everywhere. Anyway now she says I abandoned her (side note she lives 14 minutes from us she lives with my aunt) I do visit her and take her grocery shopping etc, I make sure she has her meds, get her baths for her etc. I bring her to the house to see the kids and hangout. But she says that I am a b**** because I won't let her stay the night anymore ( my kids don't like her she attacked my oldest son, she calls me fat and makes me wait on her hand and foot) I promised my dad when he was dying that I would take care of her but he knew what kind of person she was so I took care of her as long as I could. I have been in therapy for years because of this woman. AITAH for not letting her stay with us anymore and am I a horrible daughter EDIT: So I didn't expect much feedback on this but for clarification my children see her once a month if that. When I do things for her my kids are at school. My children know very well that her behavior is ridiculous and the way she treats me and others is wrong. Also for context my therapist is working with me to cut all ties, part of me feels like I am breaking my promise to my father and that is the only thing that keeps me tied to this woman. But through therapy and my husband and childrens support I am cutting ties with her slowly but surely.