📝 AITAH for not appreciating my friend's efforts?

By AnybodyLatter8024 • Score: 1 • April 9, 2025 3:35 AM


I (20F) am currently the president of a college club. The other officers are all my friends, as we all decided to run for office together (president, vp, treasurer, secretary, senator). At the beginning of the semester, it was super fun and all we dreamed of. Since we're all friends, we all got along really well. As the semester has progressed, this has all changed.

For lack of a better word, the vice president (19NB) and secretary (19NB) are lazy. They hate all the club members, so they won't talk to them. During meetings, they sit in the corner and only talk to each other. They do not actively try to complete tasks (communicating with our club advisor, who is a professor, or posting announcements for the club to see) unless you spoon-feed them the exact instructions. They have had no ideas for club activities or events, and rely on me to come up with a new activity every week with no assistance. I've had to pick up the slack for these two officers, despite being the busiest club member with 3 jobs and an internship nearby that I'm on call with every weekend. These two, however, are unemployed and do not have daily tasks that would hinder them from doing things for the club. What has bugged me the most is the vice president constantly saying, "Guys, WE have to do this," then making no effort to do the specific task.

The specific event that has sent me over the edge was planning an overnight club trip to a conference a few hours away. The treasurer (20F), whose only job is to manage our student club money, had to take on the brunt of the planning with me because the VP and secretary would not talk to our student government without "a friend coming with [them]!". They did not assist in the communication or planning aspect whatsoever, even though the secretary's job is to communicate with the student government.

I held an officer meeting this week and expressed all the issues that have built up. I told them how I'm overworked, that there is little effort being put in, and that I will not be running for President again next semester. The treasurer completely agreed, and then added that they will not be running either. I haven't touched on the senator position, and its that the senator (20M) is going above and beyond for what his role is supposed to be. He talks to club members and is engaged, and even bakes treats for our club meetings. He took the conversation very well. Now onto the VP and secretary. The VP said nothing the entire meeting. Did not add to the convo. Did not apologize for their lack of effort in the club. The secretary apologized for how they've put in no effort, and how they're such a bad officer. They kept saying how awful they were repeatedly, then went on to say that next semester they WISH TO BE PRESIDENT. They then present a million event ideas they have and accompanying Pinterest boards for it. Where were these ideas the entire semester when we needed them?

Ever since this conversation, I haven't felt like the effort has been genuine. The secretary has been sending bunches of event ideas to our shared chat, and constantly talking about being president. However, I'm salty that these ideas weren't shared at all the entire semester. We've had to cancel club meetings because of not having ideas for the members. Our club has become a shell of what it was because I'm not able to put in the adequate effort without support from the other officers. I feel like the secretary is now only talking about ideas because she wants to prove how she'd be a good president, not because she feels bad for leaving me and the treasurer with all the actual work. I want general advice for how to go forward, and also it would be nice to know if I'm a dickwad for thinking like this.

I hope this post is coherent enough to understand where I'm coming from. I wanted to keep it on the vague side for anonymity purposes.

TLDR: My college club officers haven't put in any effort until now. I don't feel like the effort being put in now is genuine. So Reddit, AITAH?

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