I have a friend that has a birthday trip coming up and she appears to be upset that I am not able to make it . She was able to make it to my birthday trip but the kicker is it was under these circumstances. She had a free stay at my house , I paid for most of the hotel when we weren’t at my house , my other friends paid for an outing we all did and my parents paid for a lunch . Her expenses were low. However she is wanting me to pay a weeks worth of hotel stays by myself along with amusement park fees , a gift ( she did get me a gift)and extra shopping fees plus gas to get there and back ( 4 hours , which she also traveled) . Honestly this would not have been a problem had she not came up with this idea in advance and not 3 weeks before her birthday. Leaving me little time to notify my job and have money set aside . She changed her birthday trip several times so I was prepared for other things. I offered to celebrate with her for a shorter visit but her answer is always she’ll have to see . AITAH for not attending ?