So I vent a lot about being tall because I hate being tall, but I am (20F) 6”3 just on the edge of 6”4 for context and my boyfriend is around 5”6-7, we started dating not too long ago and he’s super nice but last night we had a problem and I lowkey can’t tell if I’m being a bitch or not

So I’m a very insecure girlie I won’t lie, being tall has never really served me in many positive ways. BUT my boyfriend? He loves my height, he’s always reassuring he’s always making jokes and he’s just super fun and kind and I love him for that and I always show gratitude for that, but last night was just so weird

Anyways, me and my boyfriend got dinner yesterday and basically when him and I were walking out of the restaraunt these two kids and their mom were walking in right, and one of the kids deadass stopped in their tracks full on pointed at me and was like

“Ew mom look! That girl is so tall”

This kid was like 5 okay I can’t blame the kid but it upset me it really did, the mom was apologetic and stuff but I was like whatever so me and my boyfriend just left

And when we got home like yeah I was upset like sorry I don’t wanna be laughed at in public? But anyways the main point of the story

My boyfriend was being super reassuring telling me not to worry about it and that i looked so beautiful and all that, but I don’t know why it hit me so bad but his words weren’t helping and I was just crying my eyes out and eventually he told me “why do I even bother?” And I was a little shocked, I was like what do you mean and he was like “I think you’re so beautiful and I love you, but it’s so draining how you never accept my compliments, why am I even giving them if you never believe me?” And then he went off about how it seems like I’m not grateful for him and that his opinion should be the one that matters not random strangers (which I agree with to an extent), but I feel like it’s so much easier said than done and I don’t know

I don’t want to have my insecurities ruin my relationship but I also can’t just magically grow confidence I feel like

I ended up telling my mom about what happened, and she basically ALSO said I was being too much and making my boyfriend feel useless, that I’m like acting like his reassurance don’t matter to me, stuff like that

So now I’m wondering am I being the asshole for not being able to accept his compliments? Am I accidentally making him feel like his love and support don’t matter?