Tried to put this in relationship advice but it said to post here instead.

I'm 15 years into my relationship with my husband - married 5 years now with 1 kid. 35f married to 41m. I love him, I want to stay with him, I love our family. But some things from our past linger in my head and I find I haven't been able to forgive him, even though time has passed. Should I see a therapist? Do I need to put on my big girl panties and forget it? Do I address it with him? How do I get over feeling hurt?

Over the last 5 years my husband lied to me about going to strip clubs. After many years of him going, we agreed that he wouldn't go without telling me, and there would be no private naked dances or extras. On my end, I gave up overnight trips with friend groups who included guys if my husband wasn't there. Two times in particular really hurt - once while I pregnant and the second was after our second pregnancy loss. These two times in particular are what I find myself getting very mad about, years later even after we've agreed to move past it. Anyone in long term relationships have advice to move past this positively