Hi, new to reddit so bare with me ^' I am the youngest out of three (23F) and the only one still living at home with our mom, I've often felt unheard but that might be just the youngest child syndrome (the oldest has said I am spoiled) I do get upset pretty quickly (thats a problem for my therapist) when I feel like I am being ignored or nor listened to.

I've had a second hand macbook laptop for the past 5 years (works pretty well) but because of my studies and hobbies I've been wanting a stronger computer. I talked it over with my mom (I do work but atm most of my salary goes to my therapy) and talked about her buying a computer and me giving her back the money over the summer when I can work more.

We individually talked with some friends that know more about computer hardware, looked at a lot of postings (offical stores and second hand) and settled on a pretty good offer for a second hand computer. The day before I was supposed to go pick it up she starts saying how the processor and the mother board are going to be a problem until I sit her down and talk it over with her. Suprise: she doesn't want to buy the computer. I said ok, it is your money, I know you would prefer to go look into offical stores. I do not need a state of the art computer or anything complicated (just something that isn't apple's and can handle some power). Since then she doesn't want to talk about it (it has been about two week) and brushes me off everytime I try to bring it up.

Now the actual problem: my birthday is coming up in a few weeks and nobody from my family has asked me about birthday wishes. This and one of my siblings avoiding the topic makes me afraid that they are going to give me a computer for my birthday... Am I the Asshole for not being excited over that?

I wanted to finally buy a computer I chose and liked but at the same time it would mostly be her money and I should probably just be grateful

I have a hard time being objective so would welcome an opinion of people not involved in the situation