My roommate and I became close our freshman year of college and decided to room together sophomore year (currently). I am in a long-term relationship with my boyfriend who also goes to our college and he lives in an apartment near campus. I am introverted and have a low social battery a lot of the time and like being alone/just with my bf after long days of classes or extra-curriculars. I spend the nights at my bf’s place because I don’t get to see him during the day, and we also have a pet together that lives at his apartment that i enjoy spending time with and taking care of. I spend most evenings at my dorm and get dinner with my roommate, she and I go to an extra-curricular together every week, and we attend sports games & events together. She also has a bf and spends some nights a week with him. She is also an extremely type A person and is constantly very stressed and does not talk about her emotions. Every time I leave the room after hanging out with her, I get a passive aggressive look or tone of voice when I say goodbye. I feel constantly judged for being with my boyfriend and spending the nights with him. I feel like she needs me to be with her 24/7, including wanting me to sleep in the same room as her. The one time we had an emotionally charged conversation she said that “the friendship feels one-sided” and that “I could be around more”… I feel like I’m trapped in some marital arrangement and like I’m doing something wrong by living my life the way I want to. Am I doing something wrong by not always being with her? Please help… this bothers me every single day.