This past year has been a lot for my family. My mother had a psychotic break. I texted my best friend one evening while at work about my mom who I just found out was tracking and recording my dad in his car. My friend responded with this exactly: “I can’t talk now. I’m barely awake, I haven’t slept in a week and I was at a mental health crisis center yesterday.” I responded with “omg I’m so sorry.”

Of course I was concerned about her but I knew she was well cared for by her husband and brother (who she lives with). I felt that if she needed my support she would have asked. After work I went home and went to sleep. Right when I woke up in the morning my best friend sent me a 4 paragraph text about how I should have called her, if not driven to her house. And that she doesn’t feel I care about her. I apologized and explained again I was just trying to be respectful and let her finally sleep. Eventually she went on to say that she wouldn’t have been upset if I at least texted her this morning. I told her it is the morning and I just woke up to her texts. She said “well I’ve been up by 3am so it feels like the afternoon to me.”

I’m at a loss. If I text someone saying can’t talk now barely awake and they called me I would be annoyed. But maybe I’m wrong. AITAH?