I 30(F), live with my husband 30 (M), and my mother in law 73 (F). Occasionally my sibling in-laws, will stop by. Of course they can come over anytime and are always welcomed. They communicate with my mother law to notify her when they are coming but I’m not always informed when they are. If I am not informed that they are stopping by, then I am not mentally or physically prepared for their arrival. I have no complaints that I am not informed as this is my mother in laws home just as much as it is mine, so I do not feel like she needs to inform me. I love my mother in law and have no issues with my siblings coming over. I just hope that my sibling in laws understand if I do not come out to greet them every time they visit. I work overnight so when I come home in the morning I get comfortable, take off my bra and get ready for bed. If they come unannounced I don’t think I should be expected to get out of bed and greet them every time. From the morning to the late afternoon I am asleep so I can’t greet them. When I wake up, it’s late afternoon, so if they visit during that time I have to get up and get ready to be presentable and that takes time mentally and physically and by the time that I get out of bed and get ready then they are already leaving or have left. My in laws have not made any complaints that I am aware of but I noticed that one of my in laws seemed indifferent towards me so when I expressed my concerns to my husband he said it could have been because I did not greet them the other day when they came over earlier in the morning. Again I had just gotten off work, undressed and in bed and although I was awake, I did not get up to greet her because I was already settled in. AITAH?