So me and my girlfriend had a pretty decent relationship. We met last year of college and had been in a relationship for about 8 months now. I spend a lot of time with her. Sometimes it feels like John and Yoko lol. She gives me a lot of time too. And whenever we need space both of us are understanding and not highly controlling or possessive.

So, the first big fight happened end of our final semester. She had an online exam and she didn’t study for it at all. While I was studying, she would either join me in the library and yap or watch a show. Or, she would just stay at home doom scrolling. Day before the exam she told me to help her cheat. It was online but proctored she wanted me to take pictures and GPT them sitting beside her during her final. I was shocked, she said she did it before and I’m making a big deal out of this. I said that this goes against everything I stand for, and I would 100% help her study right now. But not cheat. She started calling me bitch, pussy, R word etc. and it was a shouting war at her place. Her roommate came to fix things but my gf told her to fuck off. I was more than embarrassed and I said do what you want and left.

The next day she barely talked to me, and I know she cheated using her best friend. I didn’t confront her about it. But, she mentioned she embarrassed me in front of her best best friend, cuz she really didn’t wanna ask her. But, whatever, we both passed and graduated. I got a new grad job in another city. At that time she was still looking for a job, but, she accepted my proposal to move in together. After she finds a job she could decide on where to live later on. But, my doors are open.

So, we started living together. Man, they were the best days of my life. I couldn’t imagine a single day, even an hour without her.

But, everything has to end, and I don’t know what I did to deserve this but we got into a fight regarding a similar situation. She had a final round interview at a Big tech company next week, and literally after getting the interview offer, she told me that, this was the only thing I have to do for her without asking any questions. HELP HER CHEAT!

I was furious, she knows I can’t stand that and I couldn’t help her do that. Again, she started calling me names and the worst of things. But, she literally broke down when I said, I’ll take a week off from work to help her prepare. She started literally bagging holding my feet to help her cheat. She had no friends here, and that was apparently my fault. I basically gave her no choice but to move here (in her words). I said I can’t but, started emphasizes that I will help her 24/7 this week to prepare.

Then her mood shifted, She got up started screaming again. I will always remember her words. She said, “You dumb stupid pussy, how someone as R as you can help me “PREPARE””. I have a chem. Degree, I thought it was pretty difficult and for her to say that literally broke me. She then went on to say, “JEALOUSY”, basically I was Jealous that she would be making more than me and I couldn’t stand that. I want her to always be locked in her room, like a fuckdoll to be used after I come home from work. She started slapping me, and calling me “womanizer”, “wife beater”(never hit her or anyone in my life”, “Nazi” etc.

I got my things, I told her it might be common to do these kinds of things from where she came from, but, my family didn’t raise me to be like this and I left (I might have gone too far with this comment, I really regret saying this).

So, we haven’t spoken since. The next day when I came back she was gone, and left a note saying “Find another housewife”. It’s been almost 2 months now. And I tried getting into a relationship again, But, it’s not the same. I want to apologize to her and try to fix things up again. But, I’m really confused if I should do that, I’m also really confused if I’m just being impractical. It’s really hard now to focus or get jobs for new grads.

So, maybe I just went too far with my morals. I hate myself everyday now. And I don’t know what to do. What should I do? Am I the A$$hole in this situation?