I'm a teenager (F) living with my parents. I am by no means a clean freak, but I am not completely unclean either.

My parents frequently berate me for the fact that I don't help them around the house as much as I could. It's not that I can't do most things, but I don't want to.

The reason comes down to judgement. Whenever I do something in their presence (whenever they're home, or they will be home enough to see the result or outcome of the chore), they frequently judge the method or the outcome.

It's not even pure judgement: it's often yelling, name calling, and so forth. It's made me not want to do things whatsoever. But I'm always being told that I make their life harder (my mom doesn't work, my dad does).

I try to do things when nobody will notice: hear me, or see me. But that's unfortunately not often. I feel guilty about it, but I am often too scared to do things around the house.

The thing is, I'm either an idiot for doing it, or egoistical for not doing it. I don't know what to do, or how to feel.