my boyfriends grandma passed away 2 days ago and he impulsively purchased one ticket for himself to visit hawaii to honor his grandma because she loved hawaii. He called me and said don’t be mad but i’m going to hawaii in august to honor my grandma, I obviously would’ve been supportive, the problem is, he scheduled it on my birthday without thinking about it when we already had plans for birthday (i’m also turning 21 so it’s a big one and i really wanted to be with him). He didn’t realize this mistake until i asked when it was. He invited me to come with and cancel our other plans that we had made. I was morally conflicted and couldn’t give him an answer, I never knew his grandma and I felt that he had bought just one ticket for himself for a reason. He claimed that he probably would’ve invited me anyway and that it was just an impulsive decision. He was very upset and confused by me being morally conflicted by this situation and unsure if I should go or not. I eventually told him i’d go because he was really upset and obviously i want to go to hawaii i just don’t want to invade on his time of mourning and honoring his grandma. Did i make a bigger deal out of it than I should’ve?