I (F23) live with my two older brothers (M29) (M28) and my mother in a two bedroom apartment. My single mother has made an unlivable wage at the rate of inflation and has given us everything we've asked for.

My brother (M28) has been a problem since I was young. In short, he is a pothead who lives completely in a fantasy world, playing video games all day, not working, no friends, and to top it all off he's an andrew-tate level misogynistic right-winged POS.

He hasnt accomplished anything and though addiction and mental health issues are real and valid, I've dealt with it myself and made it to the other end. I've paid for my first car, moved my mom out for a year into a big house and was the main bread winner, losing my early 20s to working. After losing my job, we were forced to move back into this two bedroom apartment where I am forced to share a space with my mother while my oldest brother gets the other room, and my pothead brother gets the living room.

He has continuously been disrespectful in ways you can't imagine, blaming my mother for everything he is and this has been his personality since before the drugs. My mother coddles him then says he's destroying her life. I moved her out for a year because of this, she was getting verbally abused almost everyday in this apartment living in fear.

Now, my mother kinda gave me no choice but forced me into buying a car with her. I had my own car before and she had a shared one with my eldest brother but that's too many details. Key thing to note is, after getting a new job I was given no choice by my family but to have a co-owned car with my mother. I had a bad feeling so I kept it off for as long as possible.

Finally after months of her nagging we financed a vehicle that became one of the most precious things I've ever owned. She put down 11k, we borrowed 4k from someone, and I put down an extra 1k. The total cost of the vehicle is 30k. This means, I am financing 18k, totaling $270 a month. Additionally, I am paying for the insurance which is another $370 a month.

Along with this I pay for our phone bills, I've covered my mother's phone bill for years now. That is another $150. Our furniture is in a storage unit which is another $260. This leaves me paying over $1k in bills a month, i don't pay rent as that was our agreement because I dont have my own room or space.

All of these details are necessary in my eyes. My mother has been very adamant about my pothead brother driving the car, only paying for his additional insurance of $155. He does absolutely nothing, he's high all the time, he leaves his alcohol all over the apartment (which is something we NEVER do as an asian family), even recently I've been finding his joints all over the floor that I've been telling my mom to call him out on since we have a cat.

My mother is going away for a few days on a trip and I do not verbally speak to my brother. I can't stand the thought of him driving my car, it just feels like I've made the worst mistake of my life. I know this sounds dramatic but all of my trauma comes from this man and it feels like the most precious thing to me is being taken away.

My mother continues to say I'm the one creating problems and being dramatic, that Im being unfair to her since she's allowed my oldest brother to drive her car in the past, and me, even though I never drove her car, the first car i drove was one I bought with my own money working three jobs.

I've been so distressed over this that I keep crying and feeling destroyed. AITAH?