I (24f) have a friend, (26f) we’ll call Amber.

Amber and I have been friends since…forever. Literally. She’s more like a sister to me. However, with age, we grew apart. We are still close, but I wouldn’t consider us “besties” anymore. I am focused on working and my business and she has four kids, no job, no car, etc, so there is never much for us to do besides sit around.

She has had no luck with guys. I’ve always persuaded her to focus on herself, but, she only will do that for a good 2 weeks. She jumps from relationship to relationship, and for the most part, I am supportive and there for her.

Recently, she decided to pursue things with an old high school fling. She ended up moving in with him and all her kids within two weeks of dating. Of course, as her friend, I didn’t think it was the smartest idea. She then became engaged 3 weeks later, with a wedding date of a month away.

The wedding is coming up, (small church wedding) and I am not invited because I told her I think it was rushing it, not smart, confusing for her kids (who are autistic and already don’t do well with change), and that she should’ve been focusing on herself and providing an income for herself for her kids. I mean, her parents literally have to take her children to school because she can’t do it herself. This man cannot afford to take care of her and all those kids and she is putting everyone in a terrible situation. I spoke my mind, got uninvited, and now feel like an AH.