Hi my fellow Reddit people. I need some opinions on if I’m in the wrong here but I have an older brother I think he’s around 32 or maybe 33. I’m in my mid 20’s but anyways I recently moved back home to catch up on my bills and save up to look for an apartment, this is irrelevant but I’m only mentioning this because im finally back around my entire family and seeing how their dynamic works, it’s been years since I’ve lived here. My brother moved back in a few years ago after living with his grandma and she ended up passing away, so yeah that’s why he has moved back in a few yrs back and I think he plans on staying. Well I’ve been noticing a trend a couple yrs ago of my parents and little sister complaining about how he would catch an attitude because no one would wake him up in the morning so he can go shopping with them (he doesn’t have his license yet and I don’t think he likes to uber and yes he does have a job) so he can get his own essentials but they never do because my mother wants to get up early and head out asap before the store gets crowded which is completely understandable. There were a few times I was around a few yrs back and seen my mother get him up, not often but she eventually stopped because… well we’re all old enough to prepare the night before and set alarms. If you don’t get up, we leave without you. Now back to present day, he notices that I have made my own sandwich and bought my own food. He gotten upset again because no one woke him up, mind you we always speak about going to the store prior the day before. He said that my mother told him I tried to wake him up. I was completely honest with him and said that was not the case and I didn’t wake him up. I assume my mother told him that because she just doesn’t want to deal with arguing and guilt tripping I suppose. He said I should have woken him up and that he would have done that for me, mind you he already sounds frustrated about this (that morning I just wanted to focus on myself and get ready and i remember him drinking the night before and assumed he was hungover idk tbh) I told him straight up that I wouldn’t have put him in that position in the first place. He then started talking to himself saying that “oh great yeah it’s all my fault etc” and he decided to no longer make himself food, mind you there’s food in the house but you gotta make something, we’re more of an ingredient household. Anyways, I didn’t really care because I just wanted to eat my sandwich in peace and left the conversation and also this was something that I’ve overheard a few times over the years from others talking about it, I was over it at this point. Sorry for this long paragraph and if there’s any typos but just wanted to know what the hell is going on and if we’re in the wrong? I haven’t lived back home in a very long time and being on your own just gives you a certain type of independence. So I just wanted to know if I’m being insensitive about it.