So me and my partner are having our 3rd baby. We had gender reveal for our 2 previous babies. For this one I had told him since I found I was pregnant that I wanted a private gender reveal (like just me, him and the kids) he refused because he wants his family there. We have plans of moving to a bigger place before September (which is when the baby is due) My family live in different states, my sister is 24hrs drive and my parents about an 8 hour drive but they won’t be able to come due to my dad getting knee surgery and my mom is the only working at the moment. His family lives around us and we see them often (mom, sister, and his cousin) we have kids around the same age that’s why we plan park trips and other things. He has another uncle but his wife doesn’t like me (pretends to be nice but I can tell she doesn’t like me) Recently his family got into a fight and doesn’t really talk to each other so things have been distant. We hung out with his cousin and sister over the weekend and the cousin made a comment towards my partner when we went to the park. My partner plays a bit too much, they were swinging in the swings and well my partner started pushing her and she starts yelling “stop, this is why I don’t fuck with you” when she said that I got really mad, but didn’t say anything. Crazy because her partner had told us of us about going to Vegas to celebrate her birthday, which is on the weekend of my son’s birthday. We were trying to throw my son’s birthday party a week before to try and be able to go with them to Vegas. But after that we just decided to have my sons party on his weekend like previously planned. We have gone out of our way to be with them and the activities they plan but after that comment things changed for me. He doesn’t see it.

This and many other things that just makes me not want to have one. He is now mad and doesn’t want to talk to me. I don’t want a party for less than 10 people. Yes I have friends and so does he but I personally think we have other things to worry about besides a gender reveal. At the end the surprise of the gender is for us not anybody else.