I was a teen mom.my sons father and I were both 16 when he was born. He used to beat me and one day when I turned 19 I left him. I told him if he wanted to get visitation rights he could I wouldn't fight him but I would keep full custody. He refused. It was his way or nothing. He even kidnapped him one day and I called the cops and smashed a window of his moms home and got my son back. I had several restraining orders but he would still hit me when he would see me in the street. Many years later I met a great man. He loved us both and right before we got married my mom calls me to tell me my sons father showed up. He applied to the correctional system and needed me to drop the restraining orders in order for him to get the job. I spoke with a detective who wanted to see if I was willing to drop it and I agreed if he stayed away. He told me that if my son called my husband dad and I moved away he would hunt me down and kill me. 5 yrs later we moved out of state my son never spoke to him. I never allowed anyone to bad mouth him. I didn't want my son to resent me. Today 30 yrs later he contacted my son. Found him through my Linkdin profile. He reached out to him and had my sons cousins reach out to him. I'm very upset. I told him I'm not happy but ultimately it's his decision. Both me and my husband will support him. My moms telling me to stay out of it and forgive and forget. I'm heartbroken and scared. I know he is a grown man but no one actually knows what he did just a little bit of it. I am actually not even saying what he did to me. It took me a while to not be terrified of him. Til this day I don't have anything under my name and he decides to look me up on LinkedIn. AITAH for not wanting him to speak with them. I have been living in hiding for 30 yrs and now I'm overwhelmed but I want whatever is good for him.