I'm 13, turning 14 in a few days. And me and my family have been planing my Quincernera. Everything is going okay then I run into the court of honor.

For people who don't know, the court of honor are the friends of the bday girl who sit at the table with her.

My friend Winter (obviously not her real name) is never on time for ANYTHING. In clubs, she's late. To school, she's there 5 minutes before it starts. And she never commits to anything. We've been friends since elementry. And even tho we've been friends to now, I don't see her as a close friend. I feel closer to my friend Fiona (not her real name either)who I have know for around 2 years than Winter.

When I'm trying to pick who I want for my court of honor. Idk what to do about Winter. On one side, I don't want her to be in it bc I'm afraid she won't commit to it bc I wanna do surprise dances and idk if she'll complain a lot like usual. And when I commit to something, I get bad anxiety about it and it's hard to stay calm. I want my day to be perfect and I'm scared she'll ruin it by being late or not doing the dances as well not bc she can't do it, bc she doesn't want to do it (she doesn't want to do anything bc whatever it is, it's hard to do and she wants something easier).

On the other side, I'm scared she'll get mad at me for not letting her be in it. My mom said we can invite her but not make her court of honor but her mom already doesn't like me bc she said I have an annoying voice and I don't want her to hate on me more. Winter also has very bad depression and anxiety, in elementry I felt bad for her so I would hang out with her bc no one would hang out with her. (I know, hanging out w some one bc you feel bad is horrible. But I was like 8 or 9 at the time) so I don't want her to be sad or mad over the fact I didn't invite her.

I have no idea why I'm confiding in strangers for advice but I am. My mom just says to do what makes me feel comfortable but not inviting and inviting her makes me feel uncomfortable. My friend Kelly (not her real name) said to do whatever makes me feel comfortable too. I'm not sure what to do 😭help plzzzzzzzzzzzz