Backstory: my mom 40f(about to be 41)I'm 17f(was 16 when this happened) I have an ex my mom only knew him when he was 17 (this part is important)she knew about the relationship and knew he was 17 I was 15 at the time. Anyways later on in the future (I'm 16 ex 18 mom 40) we had broken up I had his stuffed animals he gave me 2 jackets and his calon. Here's where it gets weirdy mom asked me to use it I very obviously nurvisly said "s-sure..ig..it's (friend who was 17 at the time name)" she wore it I felt off about it I know that's not a big deal but it gets WEIRDER. A while passes she finds one of his old jackets hung it up she seemed nervous and annoyed I wanted to throw it away(as it it didn't seem right why she didn't like me to throw it away) then one day I saw her grab it put her face in it and smell it as hard as she could then said "is this clean"(in a tone to make it seem like she wasn't smelling it to get his sent AGAIN she ONLY knew my ex when he was 17 not 18)then smelled it again.I have coaght it under pillow. Side note:you know how you talk to your crush she had that voice when she was talking to my ex saying "oh I listen to them too🥰🤭" or trying her best to talk to him (if it doesn't seem weird think of the high pitched voice you use to talk to your partner when your really excited the "🤭🥰😘" voice)and always tried to make conversations with him.Prestint time I'm 17 my boyfriend is 17(18 in June) he lives a state above me(3 hours away) so not that far☺️ and I hope to see him on his birthday. I was trying to convince my mom but I think she's convinced because of this: Metalking to my boyfriend on the phone My mom:complaining about pain My boyfriend:"I hope you feel better" Me:SHHHHH(because I know my mom will make it wierd) My mom:"w-well maybe we should go to his state...🥺👉👈🤭h-hes really nice...🥺👉👈🤭" I was right it was weird.She will have to meet him anyways if we do go to his state and it most likely get weird. Me and him plan on getting engaged at some point and I won't have her at my wedding and will block her off when it is time (for other issues and things she's done) I don't want her to meet him but I won't have them meet except on the Trip. She doesn't know this he does. So am I the assshole for not wanting my mom meet my boyfriend in person more than once? Side note if any confusion I'm so sorry not good at explaining. I'll try to help with the confusion the best I can.