my best friend and I live very different lives. she has three siblings, her mom is abusive, her dad left when she was 9 and basically, her whole childhood was spent raising her younger siblings with no choice.

my family is isnt perfect either. My parents got divorced when I was 14 my dad was an alcoholic POS, but my mom is great, and aside from my parents fighting, i had a pretty perfect childhood filled with lots of vacations, great memories, camps, sports, and luxuries.

during our childhood, every play date was only at my house. i had no problem w that, i knew she was less fortunate and it didn’t matter to us. We would feed her dinner, my parents would take us out for ice cream. We also went to the same gymnastics club for 4 years and my dad was the one that drove her to and from gymnastics every day because her mom didn’t have a car. We never asked for anything in return. over the past few years my mom has even taken her on trips and paid for everything too.

weve been besties since around the age of 8 and now were both 18. when we go out and stuff she expects me to pay. not in a rude way its like shes half joking. shes not fully broke. i know she has pocket money but she blows it all on makeup and clothes weed and food. i know this bc she shows me and tells me. but then when im with her its like all of the sudden, since i am able pay for everything, shes automatically entitled to my familys money?

it just feels so offputting. and like she bought me $20 shorts one time AS A GIFT a couple years ago and then hung that over my head everytime i didnt pay for her, and its like dude, i love you to death but we aren’t kids anymore like i cant pay for both of us everytime i see u type shit.

AITAH? is it crazy to bring this up? i feel like this isnt something worth talking about. i dont wanna make her feel bad at all. it just pisses me off as it feels like the past 10 years we’ve done a lot for her