My mom is kind of a massive Debby Downer. She comes home from work, which is her "dream job", and complains. She complains about her students, her coworkers, assignments, her school, her classroom, her lunch. She complains about how much she hates her job, and she wants to quit. When we encourage her, she says that she doesn't want another job. She says everything else would be terrible. Unlivable. She complains about our money being low, but then refuses to look for a job that pays more. She expects me and my brother to cut back on spending, but when she wants something new, it's entirely fair. She complains about the house being a mess. When I go to clean, she complains about how I can't do it right, and how she might as well do it herself. I go to cook like she asks us to do all the time, and she doesn't like the food we made, and why don't we ever make something that tastes good. She says she's depressed, she hates her life, she doesn't like where she's at, and when we suggest changes she can make, she says she doesn't want to change. When we empathize, she asks why we won't give her solutions.

My personal solution is I just hide out in my room all day. I'm so tired of it. I can't keep being around her constant pessimism. I feel bad, because she's my mom, but when I'm around her I actively feel myself getting depressed about life.

I'm not cutting her off entirely, I just limit time with her to like, an hour a day.

She complains about me hiding in my room all day, and I don't know what to tell her. AITAH for not wanting to be around my mother?