I 16F hate being in the kitchen at the same time as my dad. If I see him in the kitchen, I wait until he is finished to get food or if I’m already in the kitchen and I see him approaching, I drop what I’m doing if I can and wait until he leaves to come back

My dad is incredibly obnoxious at times. He never says excuse me and is somehow always in the way. Whenever I’m in the fridge or anyone else is in the fridge and he needs something, instead of patiently waiting like any normal person would do, he sort of shoves us out of the way and makes a comment about how what I’m getting is not as important as what he’s getting, but he does it in a joking manner even though it isn’t funny

He also has a habit of coming right up behind us and breathing down our necks and asking what we’re making or eating even though he can clearly see it. Yesterday, I had heated up some leftover takeout for lunch and he looks at my plate and says “What are you eating?” And I just ignored him because there was rice, shrimp, and broccoli on the plate

Being around him makes me incredibly anxious because of you drop or spill something, you’re getting yelled at. He watches your every move to make sure you make zero mistakes and if he sees you doing something “wrong” he comments on it and it’s like I’m walking on eggshells while just trying to make a damn snack and it drives me nuts

It’s gotten to the point where my mom has had to step in and speak up for me. I don’t want to come off as disrespectful and I think she knows that, so whenever he’s being annoying and overbearing, she tells him to relax or go to another room to leave me alone

She also thinks that he was verbally abused and chastised for every little thing as a kid because he does what was done to him to us. Watching us, commenting on everything, yelling, being picky about how we clean, patronizing us when we speak or do something. Those behaviors are learned through experience