My (50F) mom recently invited me (24F) to attend a service for my great aunt Pat, someone I don't really know at all. The funeral is next Saturday. My mom told me that Gayla (my older cousin) would be there and seemed to expect I'd be going too.

I responded honestly and politely: I didn't really want to go. I'm not close with Aunt Pat,I don't enjoy being around a lot of sad people, and 1 already had plans Saturday night. I explained that I don't feel obligated to attend funerals for family I barely knew and that I believe people should be allowed to make that decision without being guilted.

That's when things escalated fast. My mom went off on me, saying l'm changing, that I'm selfish and rude, and that I only care about my husband. (She's always bashing on my marriage based off of our past) She accused me of not being there for my family and even said I "don't give a f*** about nobody but myself." She kept insisting I should go just because it's family and that not going makes me a bad person:

I stood my ground and tried to explain that just because someone is family doesn't mean I'm required to attend every funeral. I said I was being honest, not disrespectful, and that choosing not to go wasn't an attack on her or anyone else.

She kept pushing, insulted my marriage, called it unhealthy, said I was being a B, and even went so far as to say I don't love her and that I don't want her or my family around me. I Was shocked. All of this just because i don't want to go to a funeral for someone i literally can't even picture.

So... AITA for not wanting to go to the funeral? Or for being honest about how feel instead of faking it for appearance's sake and trying to please my mom?