My child’s dad died.

I met “Thomas” (not his real name.), When I was 15 years old. We married 7 years later, and have a beautiful (now adult) child together.

We divorced, and each of us remarried. I have been re-married for almost 30 years. “Thomas” remarried and divorced wife #2.

I have intermittently stayed in contact with my former mother-in-law through the years. I will never divulge my negative experiences, with “Thomas” to her because I love her and want to protect her, but now, that’s a moot point.

I never stayed in contact with my ex-husband. We never talked, or had a relationship, except for the sake of our child. But that stopped after our off-spring became an adult.

My mother-in-law wants me to go to “Thomas’” memorial service because she wants to see me. She said nothing about wanting to see my child.

I don’t feel comfortable going to the memorial service and I don’t think it’s appropriate for me to do so.

I would just like some clarity if I’m making the right decision. I’m open to your thoughts.

Thank you for reading this post.