Okay, I have to know if I’m doing too much. Basically this girl (19F) and I(17F) used to date. We moved real fast. Too fast to the point that we were on and off for 2 months (all on my account), until I finally set the boundary that we should just be friends.

However, when I did that, I realized that I still had feelings and while she was out doing her thing, I felt physically ill whenever she would come reporting back to me about her dating life. So I suggested that I take a break as I clearly wasn’t over her.

We recently started up speaking again. we’ve been really honest about our feelings and how our dating lives are going, remaining just friends. So far, it’s been fine. However, today, after a TERRIBLE shift, we synced up our breaks so we could call. I was excited because I had a rough shift and just wanted to talk (not at all about how work was going so far, just in general). When I answered, she went on about how an old friend is at her job and how she was literally enthralled by her. I was literally on my last straw and polietly asked to call her back later.

I told her it wasn’t really her fault, because it wasn’t. It was me (and the long day I had haha).

When I mentioned I was honest with her, I truly was. I let her know that I would always have these lingering feelings for her and I’m not sure if they’d ever go away, but I’d try to suppress them just to have a friendship. I value her company and person a lot, even if I have to slowly watch her move further into the dating world.

However, I mentioned several times that maybe we should just keep relationship stuff strictly short and sweet. Frankly, I didn’t want to hear if she wanted to get into the next girls drawls. I knew we were mutually still getting used to that and it was just awkward whenever it was brought up. She said that I shouldn’t make a big deal if we’re just friends.

Is it crazy of me to just ask for that boundary to be set? I literally feel crazy every time I bring it up but saying it out loud doesn’t feel like I’m asking for too much. Am I just crazy and immature? Any outside perspective would be helpful. Thanks. :-)