My gf and I live together. We have been for some time now. Sex had died down for a bit, which sucked but whatever.

Recently, I started doing more housework, I have more energy now, so I kind of felt like doing so. I've done little projects around the house too, like building our dog a little house.

My gf has become more sexually forward, and I jokingly asked "Wow, what's gotten into you?"

And she basically said all the work I've done around the house deserves a reward.... and that completely killed my libido.

I asked her to get off me and elaborate, and she said that for some reason all the work I've been doing with my hands has turned her on. I told her that's kind of a turn off for me, because it feels too transactional. Like I gotta work for sex now. She told me it's not like that, and I asked what it is like then. She didn't really give me an answer.

We haven't has sex since, cuz honestly, I feel really turned off by this.