(20M) my dad is (56M) Im living in a different city because of work and university aroun 1000km away from my family and the trip is around 12h My aunt's husband (he's my friend, work boss and my godfather) passed away yesterday morning and I heard about it by his friends post on Facebook saying that he passed away and the funeral gonna be afternoon the same day (i read the post afternoon, i was in uni) so 3 hits at the same time I lost my godfather, i will not be able to make it to the funeral and i heard about it like a stranger I got myself together and i said of course they all now busy with the funeral and they will call me after that My mom called me around 4pm -i was on my way home- checking up on me, i insisted to come but she knows i got shit ton of work and deadlines so she said don't even think about it he will not be happy if you failed your classes (last thing he told me last time I was with him to take care of my future)... I like to always grief alone by myself because im not a crying person and my family don't get it, but i just want to take my time to process, but afterall he's my godfather for god sake i think my dad should've called me and told me the news not just leaving me high and dry Around 8 pm the whole thing started to settle down in my head and i posted a condolence and i slept. Woke up today on dozen massages from my dad: how could i not calling him and how much I'm a cold hearted son I called him like what the fuck are you even talk about, who should call who, you didn't even tell me the news and i had to knew about it like a stranger and i said maybe they're all busy with thr funeral He said and im quoting "i don't care how you heard or how you felt the moment you heard you call and check up on me" I told him im the expatriated student "son" who live alone 1000km away and you are the "father" who were next to him and instead of calling me you expect me to knew by myself and call you to give you a pat on the back?! He kept cursing the living soul out of me telling me how dare i telling him what to do and i have to make time even if its one moment for him hang up on my face I swear if this was my gf i would've broke up with her 3 years ago Will what about you free up a 30 second to tell me that he died?! And now he's saying that im the heartless unraised will son (not the first time to satrt a fight with me like this and i know the drill) and he now expecting me to come and apologize But i had enough of him being an attention Bitch hrowing his role and responsibilities on me and wanting me to carry everyone in the family starting with him while im 1000km away while he just plunging his hands in the cold water (and no he's not the "old and ill" father, his health is literally better than mine and i already pre-diabetic with chronic insomnia and heart problem that he will know about it but keep telling me that im acting like a bitch) AITAH for just wanting some one to call me and understand that I'm busy and trying to build my future in a 3rd world country?