So my boyfriend Dave (21M) and I have been dating for eight months. He’s usually pretty chill, but lately he’s been weird about my friendship with my best friend, Liam (20M). Liam and I have been close since freshman year of college—we met in a film class and bonded over horror movies and bad pizza. He’s openly gay, came out years ago, and we’ve never had anything even remotely romantic between us. We’re literally just friends.

Last weekend, Dave saw a selfie of me and Liam on my Instagram Story. We were at his apartment watching Scream for the hundredth time, and I guess Dave noticed Liam had his arm around me on the couch. He texted me later that night saying, “Why are you always hanging out with that guy? He’s probably just waiting for his chance with you.” I laughed it off at first because… Liam’s gay? But Dave doubled down, saying, “You don’t know how guys think. Even if he’s gay, he could switch up someday.”

I tried explaining that Liam’s sexuality isn’t a phase, and that it’s insulting to assume he’d ever “switch up” just to get with me. Dave kept arguing that “all guys want the same thing eventually” and said I should stop seeing Liam alone to “respect our relationship.” I told him flat-out no. Liam’s been there for me through way worse than this relationship—breakdowns over finals, my parents’ divorce, you name it. Cutting him off because Dave insecure feels insane.

Now Dave’s giving me the silent treatment unless I apologize for “choosing Liam over him.” He says I’m overreacting by refusing to set boundaries, but I don’t think asking me to ditch a lifelong friend is a boundary—it’s controlling.

I asked some of my friends what they think and they all said he's being controlling. I just wanna make sure im not being a bitch because i really do like Dave, but it seems he won't let this go. Btw he's not controlling in other areas like he doesn't care if I'm doing a dirty side hustle which we know most men allow their girlfriends to have.

I think for him he cares mostly about IRL weird stuff which is understandable, but i've never slept with my gay friend, yet.. Maybe I would invite him for a collab just to spite Dave I dunno..