As the title suggests, my ex and I have been divorced for 6 years. We have 1 son together (7). Custody has been a constant issue resulting in repeated court hearings. We originally had 50/50. I was granted full custody in 2023 due to my ex not letting my son go to school. In 2024, I lost custody because I trusted my (now ex) boyfriend to watch my son while I slept and my son was left unsupervised and got into my barn chemicals with a few other kids. (No one was harmed) I have had regular visitation since that consisted of the weekends I am off work and half the summer plus our states normal rotation of holidays and school breaks. I have attempted to get custody back but have been denied as my ex was married and I am single and the courts did not want to upset my son’s established relationships at his current school. Plus with me not having a husband, my work schedule becomes an issue. I am contracted and cannot afford to leave my current employer. I work a 48/96 rotation at work. This means I’m off 4 weekends in a row and work 2 weekends. It is a 6 week rotation. At the time of filing, none of us could figure out a good way to write up the schedule so they wrote it up as a calendar for the entire 2024 year with every date I would have my son. This calendar showed I had him every weekend I was off work and half the summer (every day I’m off work during the summer). The summer visitation schedule is extremely simple because it is a 3/3 day rotation. The school year rotation is more complicated. However, the calendar in the order only covered until December 31st, 2024. After that it simply states that I have him 6 overnights per month and the schedule rotates based on my work schedule.

In November, I clarified with my ex (in writing) that we would be continuing the same schedule at the beginning of 2025. He confirmed it would be the same schedule. Starting January 2025, my ex began insisting that I only have my son every other weekend and if I worked on a weekend that I should have him, I simply lost that time. This results in me having my son less than 4 overnights per month during the school year. He also insists that we do a 7/7 day rotation during the summer despite the very specific wording in the order saying otherwise. Since then, he also enrolled my son in baseball without notifying me (directly in violation of the court order) knowing that it effected my few visitation weekends. He also went so far to force his view of the visitation as to leave my son at school with no one to pick him up earlier this year despite knowing and being notified days and weeks in advance that I was at work (my regularly scheduled day). He then called me to demand to know why I didn’t pick my son up from school.

I have filed requesting for contempt to be held and the order we have clarified and upheld. My ex is going after me for attorneys fees and court costs stating that he is following the order and that I am trying to force visitation when it is not allowed.

So AITAH for starting this all over for the 6th time?