This is an ugly mess but I’m a 25M engaged to a 25F who’s been my gf of 4 years. I was very happy with our relationship until her family got involved. That was around the time she proposed to me (6 months ago).

Her siblings/ cousins started visiting our apartment (they also just stayed there for like a week at a time….). That was the start to some turmoil (in my family you’d get a hotel room). They were very comfortable with just dropping in, staying as long as they wanted, and making themselves at home. It’s one of those family’s where you get disclaimers before the person comes and apologies for their behavior after they leave. Cause they will visit and start moving furniture and stuff, they don’t care. But also she kind of got bullied by her parents to work in the family business now that she graduated college (so I guess more family collaboration incoming… they also refuse to agree to pay her and just say they will take care of her).

Idk, on paper the wedding is great. We are the same age, same point in life, same interests, same beliefs, same humor, but her family somehow thinks I’m marrying them and I don’t like them at all honesty. Our family’s are very different, like her cousin just asks how much money we make or things like that and idk if that’s how you Yankees do things but in my family all of that is hush hush. He also asked her to hire his daughter to the family business or give her an internship. Idk what in the nepo baby is going on here but it’s so messy and I can’t stand that she’s throwing aside her own ambitions to please those types of Asian parents/ family that will absolutely NEVER be pleased. AITAH if I tell her I don’t want to stop planning the wedding? I love her sooo much but this family is toxic. It’s like a freaking competition with sides and alliances and back stabbing. Idk