I (25F) have been with my fiancé (26M) for almost ten years. Our relationship wasnt perfect but it felt strong and steady. Last November we had our first baby and I became a stay at home mom like we both planned. I had good savings from working hard and saving young so the idea was my savings would cover baby stuff and his paycheck would handle bills.Everything is under my name, both cars and the condo. My car and the condo are all paid off. Only his car has payments left but I put half down on it and got a low rate cause my credit was good. I always planned to pay it off fully when I went back to work. But right now I am still healing from birth cause I had sepsis after my c-section and other complications. Giving birth almost killed me.

Last week I got cleared at my postpartum check up. I was so excited to finally feel better and was ready to be close to him again. When I got home that night while he was in the shower, I grabbed his phone off the bed and went to our spare room to make him a suprise. I had just bought some cute underwear and I was going to take a few pictures on his phone, then when he got out the shower, i would ask him if he could send me a picture he took earliter of the baby and then he would be met with these pictures suprisinly in his camera role. I unlock his phoneand open the camera, and in the bottome corner, where a preveiw of the last picutre in your camerae roll is in a little box, was a picture of a woman I didnt know. I didnt see much becuase its only a square and not the full iamge but when i looked at it, it was a selfie this woman took on hmy husband's phone in his car. I am immediatly sick to my stomach because this ws from today he only told me he went to work and the gym that day and they were not wearing gym clothes in the picutre.

I might be an AH here because instead of talking to him and aking i didnt want him to get the chance to delte any evidence, so i looked through his camera role, nothing else, looked through his messaes nothing else no emails in the trash, nothing. I was confused and at this point was going to give up searching. The i remebered that he delted instagram from his phone becasue he was spedning too much time on it but still logs in on his computer when we wants to use it (it helps him not be on it so much) so I go to the play store (app store) to see if I can download insta and him still be logged in on this device. When I got o thpe instagram I see that Snapchat was the last app that he downloaded, confused becasue we have never have used snapchat. You can guess where this is going. I logged in to his snap with his phone, at this point im rushing becuase I hear the shower turn off but he is shaving and listening to a podcast thorugh alexa. And yep, i found videos of them, messages between them. he did not save any so only th eones from today were visable.

i couldnt belive he was cheating on me. Futher up i found a few random saved messges that she saved He was planning to get child support from me somehow and have his parents raise our baby. He was also talking about trying to take the condo and the cars. I felt like my heart stopped. I deleted snachat, put the phone abck on the bed, grabbed the baby and went to the bedroom and just cried. I couldnt believe what I saw.That night I sent ta recording i took on my phone of some of the evidence to his parents while he was sleeping. In the morning his phone was blowing up and he got up and started screaming at me. Slamming doors, punching the walls, calling me every name. He forgot we got cameras all over the house too so all of it was caught on video.

He said I ruined his life and his parents were cutting him off. He said I had no right to record him and that I would regret it. He threatened to take everything I have. I told him to go ahead and try. I already talked to a lawyer. We arent married legally where we live and since everything is in my name he has no claim. I told him he has till the end of the month to get out.His family has been really supportive to me since all this happened. Mine dont even know yet.He keeps calling and texting and even emailing and writing letters begging me to work it out. I changed the locks and the garage code. I dont wanna work it out. I just want him gone. I gave everything to this man and he threw it away like trash. for the people wondering, I am a traveling registered medical diagnostic sonographer. Thats how I was able to afford a condo and two cars by 25. I been working since I was 15 and saving everything. My cars are used too not brand new.