📝 AITAH for screaming at my son after he decided to forgave his bully?

By Funky_Bonestar • Score: 0 • April 26, 2025 11:14 PM


TW: Suicide and Bullying.

I (43M) have a 15 year old son who i love with all my heart, he's an absolutely kind, ophimistic, sweet child, however he was going through a pretty dark period- a classmate of his that we are going to call Michael (not his real name of course) was bullying my son relentlessly both psychologically and physically and got very depressed to the point he was seriously considering taking his own life.

Thankfully, he confided in us and so after a lot of therapy sessions and a lot of love, my son started to gain his confidence and sun-like optimism back.

fast foward to some days ago, I was watching TV on the living room, when my son came to me, telling me that the bully who made him almost kill himself, had come up to him and apologized to him, I asked him what awnser he gave to his bully and said that he was going to think about it and spent the entire day doing so...he then told me that he was going to forgive him.

I, then, for some reason yelled, angrily at him...saying that he shouldnt be naive and stood up his ground instead of aceepting "a fucking forced apology", and that he shouldnt aceept it at all, specially considering the circustances around It.

My son, then, proceeded to cry and locked himself in his room, he's not going to school, not even going to have breakfast with me and my wife.

My wife says I went "too far" by talking to him this way and that forgiving him could be a step towards healing, this all made me feel very bad, even though I did it to try to protect my son of being a victim again.

Am I the asshole for yelling at my son after he decided to forgive his bully?

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